The Fear of Ending Up Alone Leads to Bad Choices in Men

When you let the fear of being alone control your dating choices, you tend to rush into situations with guys who you know aren’t right for you.

Fear of being alone makes you move an unemployed grown adult man who has a questionable history and multiple children he doesn’t support into your house.

Fear of being alone makes you call a guy who slept with you and then didn’t call you for weeks to ask for some more mistreatment.

Some women are so afraid of ending up alone with loads of cats as friends that they compromise their self- respect, dignity and common sense just to be with someone.

You know what’s ironic? This type of woman still usually ends up alone in the end after a divorce, being abused, being dumped or experiencing another setback.

Here is the question that all of us ladies must ask ourselves at some point in our lives.

Would I rather be patiently single and have my dignity intact as I grow into my full womanhood, allowing the right people to enter my life

or

Be in a series of unhappy situations with men throughout life that leave me feeling used up and unfulfilled? Oh yea, and possibly still alone or even *worse* stuck with someone who makes me absolutely miserable?

All because of fear…

When we operate in fear we make really bad choices in men and in life.

So what are the steps to overcome this often debilitating fear that some of us women have about being alone?

1) recognize that you are living in fear
2) spell out the worst case scenario that you’re fearing (like being a cat lady)
3) realize that even if that were to happen, it’s not the end of the world!
4) release the fear and start LIVING your life free and bold with a clear head!

Love Lynn

Lynn Gilliard is a writer, transformational blogger and author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU.

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Conquering Your Fears in Life and in Relationships

I recently faced one of my biggest fears head on — deep water.

Though I can swim and have been able to swim for years now, I’ve still had a fear of wading on the deep side of the pool where I couldn’t feel the floor with my feet.

This stems from a childhood experience where I almost drowned. I spent at least 5 minutes flailing, drinking water and wondering why I couldn’t feel the ground under my feet. Someone had to save me. I was afraid of water for a long time after that.

Well, I finally decided that this would be the moment when I finally ventured to the 7 foot end of the pool. I had a couple of issues, but all in all it turned out to not be as scary as I thought it would be. I now swim like a fish.

Conquering Relationship Fears
There comes a time in your life when you MUST face your fears head on in order to move forward.

This is especially true when it comes to love and relationships. Some of us live in constant fear of rejection, of being hurt, of being used and also of being alone.

Conquering those fears are key to moving to the next level: love. The more we live in worry and anxiety, the less room there is for calm, peaceful love experiences.

Identify and face your relationship fear head on. Regardless of the result, smile and be thankful because YOU DID IT. And chances are, it won’t be as bad as you thought.

Love Lynn


Lynn Gilliard is the author of the relationship guide Let Him Chase YOU (available soon) and the eBook Friends With Benefits SUCKS (At Least for Women). She is an in-demand writer and transformational blogger helping people get in touch with their inner greatness.