In my experience, women have a hard time dealing with breakups and ghostings (the guy disappears off the face of the earth unexpectedly) at FIRST but they tend to get over it and move on very quickly — even quicker than men.
Why is that? Well, I have a theory…
Women get over guys fairly quickly and very completely because a lot of women don’t have a rational reason why they even wanted to *be* with the guy in the first place. Once it’s finally over they wonder “what the heck did I even see in that guy?”
A lot of us women are so caught up in the idea of having a man (any man) in our lives that it makes us hone in on the first one that shows some attention and interest. A lot of women have bought into the idea that men are the “prizes” to be won over for relationships.
But what does the guy have going for himself that makes him worthy of your attention and time for a relationship?
Why Did I Date You Again?
What I find is that women go through a short period of feeling like crap after a breakup, but as soon as they go out with their girlfriends and meet another guy it’s like the “ex” never even existed.
If that can happen that quickly, he must not have been that special.
There’s a good lesson in this: maybe we should be more discriminating about the guys we choose to be with instead of just getting with the first guy who shows us some attention.
When you first start dating a guy, I think you should keep dating. Don’t shut out all of the other guys in the world just because you went out on a couple of dates with that one. Explore your options and observe the guys carefully to see which traits you do and don’t like. YOU are the prize and YOU do the choosing love. That’s the mentality you have to take on going forward.
Why waste years of your life with guys that you’ll probably forget easily?
When you keep your options open and your standards high there’s a better chance that you’ll come across a guy who is really special and at the very least will become a lifelong friend.
Because that’s what it’s all about right? Connecting with *special*, unforgettable people who make your life more exciting, fulfilling and wonderful.
Lynn Gilliard is a writer, transformational blogger and author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU.