Men put looks at the very top of their list of priorities when it comes to dating women.
That is one of the theories that I lay out in my forthcoming eBook on moving away from friends with benefits situations and into more loving and fulfilling relationships.
But if this is so, why are there so many stunningly beautiful women who are still single and looking for Mr. Right?
It could be a number of things. Here are three possibilities:
1) No personality. You could be stunning to look at, and a guy will date you long enough to show you off to his friends, but if you have a dry personality devoid of wit or creativity, boredom will cause a guy to lose interest.
2) You’re unstable or clingy. Men can sense a woman who is mentally unstable, quick to fly off the handle or clingy. Most don’t want that in their lives. You should have a life of your own besides constantly worrying about what a guy is doing or thinking about you.
3) Low self-esteem. The previous two points could just be a function of this one. There are so many effortlessly beautiful women who can’t even see their own outer or inner beauty. They don’t think they are special or worthy. They don’t know that they are a prize.
This topic came to mind after I watched a few reruns of one of my favorite shows, The Sopranos. The character Adriana was the most beautiful woman on the show but had the lowest self-esteem. How she felt about herself frequently manifested in her life (stress, beatings, medical issues, drug use, misery, never getting married to her long time boyfriend and eventually getting “whacked” like a dog on the woods). I always had very strong feelings about her character, because I think a lot of women have this problem.
Low self-esteem is a negative energy that will do one of two things a) ward off men completely or b) attract loser guys who want to use or abuse you (as was the case with Adriana).
So if you are a stunningly beautiful woman but still have trouble dating, examine yourself more deeply to see what could be the real issue. It may just boil down to a self-esteem issue.
Lynn Gilliard is the author of the relationship guide Let Him Chase YOU (available soon) and the eBook Friends With Benefits SUCKS (At Least for Women). She is an in-demand writer and transformational blogger helping people get in touch with their inner greatness.